Many well-intentioned parents enroll their child in counseling in an attempt to help them with behaviors that seem to be caused by the other parent. Because of the reason they are seeking out counseling, these parents naturally do not want the other parent to know what is going on.
Usually, these requests are genuine and aimed at helping the child to adjust appropriately. However, no matter how genuine the request, a therapist does not have the right to withhold this information from a parent who has a right to consent (or decline) to their child’s treatment.
It is safe to assume that if you currently share parenting time with your ex, your child will not be allowed to enroll in counseling without consent from both parents and a clear understanding about the intent of the counseling process.
In rare occasions (such as if there is a court order or an open child protection case), counseling may take place without the consent of one or both parents. However, if the child spends any unsupervised time with the non-consenting parent, continuing counseling is not considered in the best interests of the child.